Anyone who’s ever watched an episode or ‘Bridezillas’, ‘Don’t Tell the Bride’ or ‘Four Weddings’ will know how easy it is for a happy occasion to turn into one of the most stressful times of your life.
Inevitably, planning a big event will lead to some stress, but organising your wedding doesn’t have to be a nightmare. Here are ten tips to help keep your wedding as stress free as possible.
1. Organisation is key. The earlier you start planning your day the better. Make a wedding timetable before you do anything else and work out when each element of your wedding needs to be confirmed by. Your timetable will allow you to easily see exactly what has and hasn’t been done, so there’ll be no danger of forgetting anything.
2. Research wedding venues on the internet before you visit. Alternatively, give the venue owners a call and ask them about whether they can meet your requirements. That way you won’t end up wasting time visiting unsuitable venues.
3. Delegate your planning to your wedding party. Part of a bridesmaid’s or ushers job is to help with the planning and organisation of the day and most people who accept the job will expect this. As long as they know exactly what you want, you should be able to get your wedding party on board to help you do things like pick up the flowers and bridesmaid dresses or research wedding bands and DJ’s.
4. Try to make preparing for the big day fun. One great way that you can do this is by choosing handmade wedding invitations which you and your bridesmaids can make yourselves. You can buy all the bits and bobs you need for making invitations online and it could create a lovely opportunity for you and your bridesmaids to sit down, relax and enjoy each other’s company.
5. Let your bridesmaids choose their own dresses. If you have several bridesmaids then the likelihood is that they will be all different shapes and sizes and will feel comfortable in different types of dresses. One solution is to choose a colour and allow your bridesmaids to pick a dress for themselves that matches your colour choice but that they will feel comfortable in. This will make organising your bridesmaid’s outfits easier and will also be cheaper than buying four or five versions of the same dress.
6. Don’t feel obligated to invite people that you haven’t seen for years. If it’s been an age since you’ve seen someone then there’s probably a good reason for that. You don’t need to feel obligated to invite people you don’t want to, after all, it’s your day so why shouldn’t you be able to organise it as you please? Keeping the number of guests down will help to de stress you and will also reduce costs.
7. Make sure your hen night and your groom’s stag do is at least two weeks before your wedding. That way everyone will feel able to relax and let their hair down without worrying about feeling awful on the big day. This will also reduce the danger of any of your wedding party (especially the groom!) turning up with a black eye, twisted ankle or a face full of permanent marker!
8. Scrap the seating plan. Although a formal sit down dinner can be nice it’s stressful to organise seating plans and try to make sure that you sit the right people together. So instead of going for the formal option why not choose a buffet and forget about the seating plan. This will free up your time to organise other things and help create a much more relaxed atmosphere at your venue.
9. Hold off on the honeymoon. There’s no reason why you have to go on your honeymoon straight after your nuptials. Organising yourself for a holiday is stressful enough without having to plan for a wedding at the same time, so why not wait a while and plan your honeymoon later on? It’ll give you a chance to get used to life as a married couple and will give you something to look forward to after the anti climax of your big day being over.
10. If you know someone who’s handy with a camera you could ask them to take photos for you. Wedding photos can often be overly formal and stiff, not to mention that traditionally, guests spend a lot of time waiting around for photo sessions to end. To give your photo count a boost, place disposable cameras on each table at your reception and allow the guests to be your photographers. Once your photos are developed you’ll end up with some great snaps that truly reflect what a fun day everyone had.
Lucy Pitt is a blogger and copywriter who writes on various subjects across the web. For more great tips about shopping for your wedding, visit her blog.